(09-25-2018, 02:38 PM)Fluffy Wrote:(09-25-2018, 02:25 PM)Shannon Wrote:(09-25-2018, 01:33 PM)Fluffy Wrote: @Shannon
Wil you be using DMSI 3.3?
No. I am not going to use DMSI again until I have created a version that is designed for people in committed relationships. I value my current relationship very highly, and I'm not about to do anything that would potentially threaten it.
Ah you are still together. For some reason I thought you broke up...as why I asked, thinking you was single.
I totally understand not using it whilst being in a committed relationship, respect. I am happy that you have a relationship that you value very highly, it's always nice hearing that.
When I met my current girlfriend, I already had a girlfriend. For a short period of time, I dated them both at once. Then the one I broke up with went too far with something and it was the straw that broke the camel's back. I broke up with her.
But I did not stop caring about her and she was in a very bad, very precarious position, and if I had done it in a black and white manner as I usually would, she very well may have lost all hope and killed herself. No, she didn't threaten that - I just know her well enough to know that was a significant and very real threat.
So I let her down as easily as I could while making her aware that it was over. But she interpreted my kindness to mean that she had a chance still, and a year later she put me in a position that forced my hand. I had to be black and white with her, and it hurt me very deeply to have to do that to her, because I still care very deeply for her. She will be better off without me, because she was using me as an excuse to hide and stagnate, instead of grow into a woman who could take care of herself.
So I had a girlfriend, and broke up with my ex in a way that she truly "got", but which deeply hurt both me and my ex in the process.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!