08-17-2018, 03:50 AM
Quote:They don't care about looks, they care about the way things make them feel. An 'attractive' guy is attractive because his physical attributes make a woman feel some type of way that's positive on a primal levelWell, doesn't that just confirm that they do care about looks though? If being attractive make them "feel" good, then indirectly they do care about it.
The thing is, looks is the first thing people feel from another human being. And some women stay just at that level. They see a hot guy, and their automatic response is being attracted to him.
Now, what happens when a guy doesn't have looks? He has to display something else of value and this needs involvement from the women. Just this fact that disqualifies a good chunk of women. Many of them instantly put you on the "no way in a billion years" case from the first impressions of you.
And that's where I agree with you about passion. Sure, with passion and everything you said you can put on display less blatant qualities and make a woman feel good, despite your look, but again, that requires some involvement from them.
When women don't even give you the chance to prove yourself, like when they instant-ghost you, you're doomed.
But even about finding a passion and enrolling women with the same interests, I found out something else missed. When I was doing that I ended up with friends, not FWB or potential GF. So probably what missed was being perceived as sexy.
You may be all passionate and special and interesting like you want, if you lack any sexiness I doubt you'll get that far.