06-02-2018, 12:06 PM
(05-30-2018, 07:33 AM)MasterEnki Wrote: @Shannon
I have a practical ‘game plan’ now. Get to know women first, and try build a connection first (I guess this means, with them, going to cafes, beach, sharing hobbies, etc). And let them make the moves / escalate (It is my understanding that AYP manifestations will escalate, and that she will make the moves).
Maybe, maybe not. Depends on the person who responds. If you do manifest something, however, things will strongly tend to naturally flow into the sort of relationship and experience the program is designed for, without concern for who escalates.
Quote:There are still a few things I’m confused about,
Quote:In my opinion, trying to lose your virginity to a FWB in this day and age is unwise
Quote:That means she will be less likely to hurt you than a FWB, in my experience.
Could you please expand on these points.
In what ways is my perfect FWB (primary manifestation of AYP FWB) likely to hurt me?
Why would losing my virginity to my perfect FWB be unwise?
I didn't say a FWB would be likely to hurt you. However, who do you think is more likely to hurt you? A friend, or someone who is deeply concerned with your emotional and sexual health and well being? It's just common sense that someone who is more invested in you will be safer than someone who is not.
It is unwise because if you have sex with a woman who is only a casual acquaintance, she will have much less emotional involvement in you and much less connection to you. Most people are deeply affected by sex, even though most guys don't understand this, and sex with someone you're only friends with is a good way to have a sub-par first experience in my humble opinion.
Quote:Quote:If I were in your shoes, I would be doing AYPSL or AYPRL
I’m currently 130 days in using AYP FWB (as of today). I started AYP FWB in mid Jan 2018.
I chose ‘Perfect FWB’ (instead of other AYPs) because I thought that it would be the option with the least amount of drama / least amount of issues.
I value my independence greatly, and want to live separately from women, and focus my dating for weekends only. I’m naturally an introvert, and like to regularly have quiet time by myself, to meditate, to read, and relax.
Though, if losing my virginity to my ‘perfect FWB’ has hidden and dangerous consequences, then I may reconsider (and try another AYP), if those consequences are severe enough.
Thanks
You're certainly welcome to whatever you choose, and what I say is my opinion. My point of view may not be the best way for you. But I suggest these things because of my personal experience.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!